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The more the merrier: More kids = more joy for married couples November 15, 2009

On The Soup last Friday, Joel McHale made a crack about TLC‘s penchant for shows about families with multiple kids, chiding them for the two things the network seems to do best–stick to a format and ruin a marriage. While media channels continue to drag Jon and Kate Gosselin‘s troubles to the spotlight, a new study by Dr. Luis Angeles from the University of Glasgow reports findings indicating that having children improves married peoples’ life satisfaction and the more they have, the happier they are. For unmarried individuals, raising children has little or no positive effect on their happiness.

When asked about the most important things in their lives, most people place their children near or even at the top of their list. Contrary to previous studies on this topic, Dr. Angeles’ analysis of the relationship between having children and life satisfaction takes into account the role of individual characteristics, including marital status, gender, age, income and education.

For married individuals of all ages and married women in particular, children increase life satisfaction and life satisfaction goes up with the number of children in the household. Negative experiences in raising children are reported by people who are separated, living as a couple, or single, having never been married. Children take their toll on their parents’ satisfaction with social life, and amount and use of leisure time.

Dr. Angeles concludes: “One is tempted to advance that children make people better off under the ‘right conditions’ — a time in life when people feel that they are ready, or at least willing, to enter parenthood. This time can come at very different moments for different individuals, but a likely signal of its approach may well be the act of marriage.”

I might add that, of the happy, successful, larger families with whom I’m personally familiar, it really does seem to come down to partnership–not only between the husband and wife, but among their offspring. Committed partners help one annother, and teach their children to do so as well. In happy families with many children, you’ll often find older children assisting younger siblings without begrudging it, because their parents model that value. And let’s not forget gratitude: parents who demonstrate thankfulness for one another and for their children encourage their kids to be thankful for one another as well.

I also look to larger families to learn better time management and organization. In our house, I’m frequently amazed by the chaos created by only two preschoolers–some might say we’ve already reached critical mass–and I can’t imagine having the energy to bring in a third (and let’s be honest, I’m not getting any younger). 

Having children is, to be certain, a tremendous amount of work. Thank goodness our children also bring us a heightened experience of happiness, although I have to wonder how that balance between work and reward is maintained if beleagured by the constant presence of a film crew?

 

Dr. Lauren Feder to offer 3 LA-area Safe Vaccination Lectures October 27, 2009

There is a growing movement among parents to question the safety of such standards as vaccines and antibiotics. 

Dr. Lauren Feder, author of The Parents’ Concise Guide to Childhood Vaccinations, presents three Los Angeles-area workshops for parents who are seeking optimum health for their children. Dr. Federer will present an overview of health, disease and each vaccination, including pros, cons, risk, benefits and prevention of vaccine side effects. Syllabus included.

Patients of all ages often ask Dr. Robert and Carri Tanaka of Natural Life Chiropractic this question: ”what do you think about vaccinations?” The Tanakas encourage all families to “get education from multiple resources on this important topic. One person we look to and trust is Dr. Lauren Feder. Dr. Feder is a Los Angeles-based doctor and, in our opinion, her lecture is a must for any parent to be, or person concerned about their families health.”

Dr. Feder’s lectures sell out quickly, so early registration is highly recommended.
Cost: $25 per person, $45 per PARENT couple.

See below for details on locations and times. NOTE: Dr. Feder will have books on hand as well as homeopathic flu remedies for sale. Please bring cash for these items. The Swine Flu will also be addressed.

For more info on this topic, for vaccine exemption forms and more, visit www.nvic.org.

Location: Belly Sprout
Saturday, November 7, 2009
10:30am – 12:30pm
426 W. Commonwealth Ave.
Fullerton, Ca. 92832

Location: Golden Bridge Yoga
Sunday, November 8, 2009
1:30pm – 4:30pm
6322 De Longpre Ave.
Los Angeles, Ca. 90028

Location: Yo Mama Yoga
Wednesday, November 18, 2009
6:30pm – 8:30pm
1404 3rd Street Promenade, Suite 204
Santa Monica, Ca. 90401

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Childhood epilepsy pinpointed in kids aged 1-5 August 31, 2009

This is from my Parenting column on the LA Edition of Examiner.com.

A form of partial epilepsy associated with auditory and other sensory hallucinations has been linked to the disruption of brain development during early childhood. The new findings focus on the development of synapses, the connections between brain cells.

“During early childhood – roughly between the ages of one and five – the brain undergoes a period of major circuit remodeling,” explains Matthew Anderson, MD, PhD, a principal investigator in the Departments of Neurology and Pathology at BIDMC, who lead researchers in a study at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center. “Our discovery that a familial form of temporal lobe epilepsy can develop at this point demonstrates the fragility of the brain during this critical period.”

Anderson, who is also an Assistant Professor of Neurology and Pathology at Harvard Medical School, explains: “At birth, the brain is loaded with excitatory synapses which help make nerve cells ‘fire.’ However, if these excess synapses are not adequately ‘pruned,’ they can overgrow, leading to excessive transmission of excitatory signals and the development of pathological conditions, including learning disabilities and autism in addition to epilepsy.”

Using a genetically engineered mouse model created in his laboratory, together with brain slice patch-clamp electrophysiology techniques, Anderson and his scientific team found that a mutant form of the LGI1 (leucine-rich glioma-inactivated 1) gene was preventing the normal brain development. (According to Wikipedia, since its earliest discovery, the LGI1 gene has been implicated in the control of cancer metastasis and in a predisposition to epilepsy.)

“The first clue was our discovery that LGI1 is not expressed until the exact time when excitatory synapses are matured,” said Anderson. “We subsequently learned that the mLGI1 gene was indeed prohibiting excitatory synapses from being adequately pruned, leading to an increased excitability of circuits in the brain which left it prone to excessive synchronous discharges that are characteristic of epilepsy.”

Autosomal dominant lateral temporal lobe epilepsy (ADLTE) is characterized by frequent partial seizures (two to five per month) that are associated with auditory or other sensory auras. Tonic-clonic seizures also occur in the majority of ADLTE patients, but are infrequent, developing only about once a year.

“These partial seizures can have a significant impact on a patient’s quality of life,” notes Anderson. “Because patients can be disoriented and excessively tired following a seizure event, their day-to-day lives can sometimes be seriously disrupted. And when it comes to driving and other activities, there is still a real danger associated with this condition.

“One important reason to identify genetic causes of epilepsy is the hope that these discoveries will eventually lead to new therapies,” he adds. “By identifying this new pathway, we may have found a new target for future drug development.”

Study coauthors include BIDMC investigators Yu-Dong Zhou (first author), Sanghoon Lee, Zhe Jin and Stephen E.P. Smith, and Moriah Wright of Tufts University School of Medicine.

Parents can read more at Epilepsy.com, the US National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke, People Against Childhood Epilepsy, and Charlie Foundation to Help Cure Pediatric Epilepsy.

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Healthy kids’ teeth: 5 essential tips August 14, 2009

This article is from my Parenting column on Examiner.com.

Good dental hygiene is essential to the health of your mouth. Help teach your children proper oral hygiene. Parents should begin cleaning their child’s teeth the moment a first tooth erupts. (Some babies can begin to get teeth as early a four months of age,) Dentist Dr. Dan Smith offers his Top 5 Tips to keeping your child’s pearly whites healthy. 

Preventative care early on can help prevent cavities and painful procedures for the child in the future. Not only does a clean, healthy smile help your child look (even more!) adorable, good oral hygiene contributes to total body health and well-being.

1. “Be sure your child brushes their teeth twice a day with ADA-approved fluoride toothpaste,” says Dr. Smith. This does not mean a quick once-over with a brush but, watch as your child brushes each surface of their teeth for two full minutes.

2. “Replace your kid’s toothbrush every three to four months,” according to Dr. Smith. The tell tale sign that a new toothbrush is needed is frayed bristles. A brush with worn down bristles won’t do a good job of cleaning your child’s teeth.

3. “Have your child floss daily,” states Dr. Smith. All that sugar will build up between teeth and under gums. Flossing helps remove the plaque and food particles that have accumulated.

4. “Feed your child a balanced diet,” claims Dr. Smith. It is okay to indulge your kid’s sweet tooth but only from time to time. It is paramount to feed your little one a balanced diet of fruit, veggies, dairy, protein, and carbs.

5. “Schedule your child regular visits to the dentist for cleanings and oral exams.” Last but not least, a check-up every six months is recommended by Dr. Smith in order prevent cavities and other dental problems. However, your dentist can tell you when and how often your child should visit based on their personal oral health.

Dr. Smith frequently lectures on implant dentistry and is the director of Focus Dental Institute for Implant Reconstruction as well as co-director of Focus Center of Sleep Apnea and Snoring. Please visit FocusDentistryOnline.com to learn more.

For more info: Daniel Smith, D.D.S., F.A.G.D in 1981 graduated from the University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA) School of Dentistry. He maintains memberships in several organizations including the Academy of General Dentistry, the American Dental Association, the California Dental Association, the American Academy of Implant Dentistry, the Academy of Osseointegration, the International College of Implantology, and the American Academy of Sleep Medicine. Additionally, he was awarded a mastership and diplomate of the International Congress of Oral Implantology in 2005.

Dr. Dan Smith’s office, Focus Dentistry, is located at
28040 Dorothy Dr,Ste 203
Agoura Hills, CA 91301-4916

818-889-4448‎

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Should pregnant women and babies avoid BPA? August 4, 2009

Bisphenol A, also known as BPA has been under scrutiny as hazardous to humans since the 1930s. Yet it wasn’t until 2008, after several governments issued reports questioning its safety, that some retailers removed products made of it from their shelves.

What is BPA and why should you avoid it?

Bisphenol A (BPA) is a synthetic estrogen used to harden polycarbonate plastics (used in some baby bottles, and bottled water) and in the epoxy resin used can linings. It was found in the bodies of 93 percent of the Americans tested by the Centers for Disease Control (CDC). In laboratory tests, trace BPA exposure has been shown to disrupt the endocrine system.

The endocrine system influences almost every cell, organ, and function of our bodies, and is instrumental in regulating mood, growth and development, tissue function, metabolism, and sexual function and reproductive processes. Disruption of the endocrine system triggers a wide variety of disorders, including chromosomal and reproductive system abnormalities, cancer, cardiovascular system damage, adult-onset diabetes, obesity and resistance to chemotherapy.

As with many toxic chemicals, infants and young children are at the greatest risk of harm because their bodies are still developing. The National Toxicology Program has expressed concern that children’s exposure to BPA may lead to problems with brain and reproductive system development and behavior. The Environmental Working Group (EWG) has compiled this list to help you avoid BPA exposure….

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Top 10 Foods to Help Little Ones Sleep Better June 22, 2009

We’ve  certainly had our issues with bedtime. Both our boys require strategic, point-by-point operations before they will agree to close their eyes for the night. We’ve tried everything (and I do mean everything) to put them to sleep, including altering their dinner options to encourage a restful sleep.

Regardless of the book or manuals you read, what works and doesn’t work in parenting is often learned through trial and error. As far as the foods we’ve  been choosing before bedtime, apparently we’ve been following the wrong tack.

While many stand by a high-protein pre-bedtime routine, (citing the side benefits of turkey because it contains sleep-inducing tryptophan), researchers have nixed this connection. It turns out turkey, like most foods, just doesn’t contain enough tryptophan to put you to sleep, explains Elizabeth Somer, R.D., author of The Food & Mood Cookbook: Recipes for Eating Well and Feeling Your Best

This comes as a surprise to me. As a former macrobiotic, I thought I knew a thing or two about the food-mood connection. Instead, Somer recommends we choose light but high-carbohydrate snacks in order to boost levels of serotonin (the brain’s sleep chemical) without overloading  the digestive system. Of course, it never hurts to wash them down with something warm and soothing, such as a cup of herbal tea (chamomile or lemon balm) or warm milk. Perhaps I’ll try incorporating a little tea-party ritual with the boys before bedtime.

The Top 10 Foods to Promote Sleep
Try one of these yummy foods about an hour before bedtime. I’ll keep my fingers crossed that your little one (and you!) get a good night’s rest tonight!

  • A 4-ounce baked potato topped with salsa
  • Half of a whole-wheat English muffin or raisin bagel drizzled with honey
  • 1 slice whole or multi-grain bread smeared with almond or cashew butter
  • Half a cup of pasta topped with marinara sauce
  • 2 cups air-popped popcorn
  • Fresh strawberries dunked in a little fat-free chocolate syrup
  • A handful of oyster crackers and one piece of fruit
  • A small slice of angel food cake topped with berries
  • A frozen whole-wheat waffle, toasted, with maple syrup
  • Half a cup of pretzels   
 

Twittering Moms Share Their Secrets for Motherhood Happiness June 5, 2009

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Mom, blogger and tweeter Meagan Francis (aka: The Happiest Mom), authors a cheerful blog sharing her thoughts about being a happier mom.

Curious about what other moms do to be and stay happy, she asked other moms on Twitter to share their rules for happy motherhood, in 140 characters or less. She received some great advice::

  • Choosing battles, relaxing expectations, & sticking up for yourself (”I’m not getting up again until I finish my coffee”) — @kt_writes
  • Get out of the house & explore w/your kids, even if it means you don’t get your list of “shoulds” done. — @motherofalltrip
  • If you did the best you could with the tools you had at the time: NO GUILT over your kid’s life choices. — @damamat
  • I’m not a mom–a dad. But I still gotta submit “choose your battles” as top notch advice from both sides of the parentfence. — @terrybain
  • My rule for happiness in motherhood “Keep your sense of humor.” That was the one piece of advice given to me by my mom. — @mammaloves
  • Children grow from the delight they see in your eyes. — @isabelkallman
  • Happy Rules: Choose your battles. Know it’s not original but it helps keep you sane with teen/tween girls in the house.–@leangreenmom
  • Stop comparing! Just as children are different, so are mothers & mothering styles — @cyclingwidow
  • Go barefoot and eat popsicles with the kids. Enjoy their childhood with them; it’s okay to be silly sometimes! — @laanykidsmom
  • Every so often, stop everything, really look at the beautiful girl I’ve made, and be awestruck. Tell her so. — @andrea_mcd
  • Time is short. Try to love every minute with them before they leave — @marthaandmeblog
  • Every day, do one thing that feeds you- whether it’s a single deep breath or a splurge at the salon or 5 pages of your fave book. — @srgruber
  • Here’s one of my Happy Mom Rules: “Don’t let the youth sports cartel run your life” — “You’re a Good Mom” (Sourcebooks 2008) — @jensinger
  • My mantra lately has become ACCEPTANCE. Kids will wreck stuff. Kids will melt down. Don’t try to change it so much. — @somethinggirl
  • My rule – perfection is not a requirement for the job. — @mbhide
  • Don’t make problems where there don’t need to be (aka don’t sweat the small stuff). Let them wear ridiculous outfits, etc. — @mayberrymom
  • One of my rules is to do something outside of motherhood that makes you happy; it makes you a better mom. — @urbanmama
  • “Happy Rule:” Don’t expect things to go a certain way. Allow yourself to be surprised.  — @toyfoto
  • It sounds cliche but don’t sweat the small stuff, let things go quickly, and laugh hard–especially when you’re the maddest. — @jennyann23
  • Learn & adapt 4 my family. Don’t be afraid to reject things that don’t fit for your family. Take a step back before responding — @playactivities

I love these answers! Cheers to all the moms! If I were to add mine, I might advise: In everything you do, tell them–with your words, your actions, and reactions–how very loved they are.

 What about you? What’s your personal number-one rule for being a happy mom? Write it in the comments below or follow me on Twitter! @RebeccaLacko

 

Cheap and Super Fun Games for Babies, Preschoolers and School-age Kids! March 15, 2009

It doesn’t take much to thrill a kid. In fact, it’s often the “small stuff” that makes for the most meaningful childhood memories. I came across this fabulous list of kid-friendly activities on Babycenter.com. These simple games boost development, are free or low-cost, and offer a fun way to spend quality time with your child!

Here’s a collection of simple, cheap, memory-making activities that are sure to be a bright spot in your child’s day – and yours!

5 cheap and fun baby activities

Let ‘er rip

Maybe it’s that pleasing shredding sound or maybe it’s the satisfaction of making a permanent change in something, but babies love to tear up paper. So plunder your recycling box for magazines or junk mail – when you see that gappy smile on your baby’s face as she gets to work, you won’t even mind the mess.

Dog days

You could take your baby to the zoo, but don’t be surprised if he falls fast asleep – or favors the water fountain over the orangutans. Instead, try a park where he can see dogs playing. It’s a lot less overwhelming and every bit as exciting, plus it doesn’t cost a penny. Just be sure to practice good doggy-and-child safety habits. You might want to carry your baby in your arms or a baby carrier to make sure he’s safe when watching and petting the pups (with permission, of course).

Flashlight games

Turn off the lights, close the blinds, grab a flashlight, and lie back on the floor for a rockin’ light show with your little one. Dance the light beam along the ceiling and walls as your baby stares in delight. An older baby might like to try holding the flashlight herself (though you shouldn’t be surprised if all she does is gum it). Just don’t let her shine it directly in her eyes – or, for that matter, in yours.

Dining out

For a change of pace, set up your baby’s highchair in the backyard or out on the front stoop and, between bites, let him fling the food wherever he likes. He’ll feel like he’s won the lottery! A bit short in the yard department? No worries – bring a booster chair to the park and set it right on the grass. Throw in some bubbles and you’ve got a perfect recipe for a fun-filled morning.

Go clubbing

In your living room, that is. Turn on your favorite music and dance with your baby in your arms. She’ll be in seventh heaven – after all, she’ll be enjoying three of her favorite things in the world simultaneously: music, bouncing, and closeness to you.

5 cheap and fun toddler activities

Hop a freight

Toddlers love transportation, especially if it’s a departure from the same-old-same-old car seat. Check out your local airport or hospital – many have a free shuttle or tram that you can ride as often as your little one’s heart desires. If you don’t usually travel by bus, check your local bus system and take a spin around town, enjoying things from a thrilling new vantage point.

Play dough

Borrow a tip from kid-friendly restaurants and let your toddler play with a gratifying hunk of pizza dough. Not too sticky and not too runny, it’s the perfect consistency for little fingers. Get some from your local grocery store or pizza parlor or mix up your own. A rolling pin is the icing on the cake for this activity (or, shall we say, the cheese on the pie). If you’re feeling motivated, you can bake a pizza with the rest of the dough while your child plays with his portion. Otherwise, simply freeze or refrigerate the rest for future playtime.

Fancy wrappings

If you’ve ever watched a toddler open a present, you know that she’s likely to ignore what’s inside and focus all her attention on the box, wrapping paper, and ribbon. If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em! Wrap up something small, such as a pretty postcard or a toy you already own. Make sure to use lots of ribbon and paper (Sunday comics work great). Present it to her with a flourish.

Baker’s man

While your toddler isn’t yet old enough to wield an electric mixer or flour sifter, he may be ready to be put in charge of the cookie-sprinkle department. So bake up a batch of cookies (you can even buy pre-made dough) and let him go nuts with a container of sprinkles. You’ll probably end up with several bare cookies and a few heavily sprinkled ones. Don’t forget to take a picture!

5 cheap and fun preschooler activities

Bathing in the pink

Or the green, or the blue… A few drops of food coloring can go a long way toward making bath time something special. It’s especially fun to mix a couple of primary colors together, such as blue and red to make purple. And no, your child won’t emerge from his bath looking like a grape – a few drops of food coloring diluted in a tub of water won’t dye your child’s skin.

Time travel

You know those old photographs of your own third birthday party or your ninth-grade dance? Dig them out and snuggle with your preschooler for a trip down memory lane. Wedding videos work well too! Of course, she’ll also enjoy seeing pictures and videos of herself when she was “little.” So break out the snacks and make an evening of it.

Ravishing radishes

When it comes to instant gardening gratification, radishes are the way to go – they pop up in a matter of weeks! After winter’s last frost, take your preschooler to the gardening store and let him pick out the package of seeds with the picture he likes best. (It’ll cost just a few dollars.) At home, find a sunny patch of yard and have your child plant the seeds directly in the ground or in a small planter. You can even grow radishes inside in a container set in a sunny south-facing window. Your little gardener will love digging a hole, sprinkling in the seeds, and covering them up. The fun continues as he gets to water the radishes and watch them grow.

Monochrome meal

We grown-ups like a little variety in our meals – but kids, who often love uniformity, get a kick out of having a special dinner in which everything is the same color. So serve up a meal that’s entirely orange (macaroni and cheese, sweet potato, orange juice, carrots), green (pesto pasta, limeade, broccoli), or yellow (lemonade, scrambled eggs, corn, pineapple).

Hunting down nature

Give your child a bag or bucket and go on an old-fashioned nature hunt. Take your time and let him collect whatever he likes – pinecones, leaves, rocks, sticks, burrs. When you get home, break out the glue and cardboard and get him started making a collage or sculpture. He may also enjoy painting a rock or two (it could become his new favorite pet).

5 cheap and fun school-kid activities

Bon appétit!

Let your child be in charge of dinner – with you as her helpful assistant. She gets to decide what to make. Some suggestions: English muffin pizzas, peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, grilled cheese sandwiches, pudding or gelatin for dessert. She can act as the “head cook” and even draw up some fancy menus. She may especially enjoy doing this activity with a friend.

Rest for the weary

You know those nights when you’re beyond exhausted, and you just wish someone would put you to bed for a change? Here’s your chance! Tell your child that you need a special helper to put you to bed early – and ask if he’d like to do the honors. He can pick out your pajamas, make sure you brush your teeth and wash your face, read you a book, tuck you in, give you a kiss, and turn out the light. It’s a safe bet that you’ll hear some delighted giggles from beyond your closed door! (Of course, this assumes your partner or another responsible adult has agreed to take on the nighttime duties for your child – and you’ll likely find yourself returning the favor sometime soon.)

Camp in

Wait for a dark and dreary day. If your child has a case of the “nothing-to-do” doldrums, all the better! Now suggest that you go camping – in your family room. Make a “tent” with sheets and blankets draped over chairs. If you have sleeping bags, dig them out – or just create some bedrolls with blankets and pillows. Tell stories and sing songs around an imaginary fire. And when the lights go out, make a beautiful galaxy appear on the ceiling of your tent by shining a flashlight through a colander.

Kid’s choice day

Let your child “run” the day. She can make the important decisions such as what to eat, what show to watch, and what activities to do. Give this day a special name so that she can plan it, as in, “On my next ‘Ali Day,’ I want to ride bikes, wash the dog, and eat spaghetti. (Helpful hint: To avoid power struggles with your child’s teacher, don’t do this on a school day!)

Treasure hunt

Send your child on a treasure hunt, right in your own house. It takes a little preparation, but the excitement is worth it! Give him a note that says something like, “Look in the flour canister.” Or make it a bit trickier by writing a clue he has to solve, such as “Look for the white powder that we use for baking.” (If your child’s reading skills are still primitive, simplify your notes, help him read them, or draw pictures instead.) In the flour canister, he’ll find another note telling him where to look next, such as in the refrigerator or under the welcome mat. Let the hunt include a few more hiding places, and put a prize in the very last one (try under his pillow). The prize can be very small – for example, a piece of candy or a pad of paper. As in all true treasure hunts, the real joy is in the search.

Have some fabulous ideas of your own? Comment below!

 

Your Child’s Cold – How Parents Can Help November 3, 2008

With Winter right around the corner, many children have already developed coughs and runny noses. As parents, how can we help? A year ago, the FDA announced that over-the-counter cough and cold medicines should no longer be used for infants and toddlers under 2 years of age due to an alarming number of harmful and even fatal reactions from these meds. “Most of these reactions are due to misuse of the products,” pediatrician Dr. Bob Sears explains. “Parents often mix several cold and cough meds together and don’t realize they are overlapping the same ingredients. Or they are simply guessing how much they should give their baby when the label doesn’t specify an infant dose. However, some severe and fatal reactions have even occurred with seemingly proper dosing.” 

Just last month, in response to the FDA’s ongoing investigation about the medications’ efficacy, manufacturers voluntarily decided to change their labeling and advice for children, stating that cough and cold meds are no longer safe or advisable for children under age four.

According to Dr. Sears, pediatricians support recalling the medicines for children under 6, and the Food and Drug Administration is studying their effectiveness for children under 12. Unfortunately, it may take them a year or more to make a final decision and order changes.

Keep your kids healthy through the cold and flu season – naturally!

Here are Dr. Sears’ simple recommendations for easing the discomfort of cold symptoms:

  • Run a hot steam vaporizer
  • Flush stuffy noses with saline
  • Prop kids slightly upright to sleep better
  • Drink plenty of fluids
  • Eat chicken soup or other hot broths
  • Eat healthy; include fruits and vegetables in daily diet
  • Use honey for scratchy or sore throats (only for kids 1 year and older)
Proven all-natural cough and cold medications that really work

Sinupret For Kids is a natural product that Dr. Sears has found to be very effective at supporting the sinus, respiratory, and immune systems. It is not a drug, but a plant-based remedy that has been used in Europe for decades and is now available in the U.S. The active ingredients are an all-natural combination of 5 plants that have been studied extensively and have a long track record of safety in Europe and around the world. Sinupret promotes healthy drainage in the upper respiratory tract, improves airflow in the nose and supports healthy mucous clearance from the nose and sinuses.

Hylands Cough Syrup With Honey – 4 Oz Hyland’s has been offering relief to families with its homeopathic remedies since 1903. We gave this product a try because we already swore by Hyland’s teething tablets! Hyland’s Cough Syrup with Honey addresses barking, croupy, moist and dry coughs and runny noses quickly, and without side effects. It is sugar-free and tastes pretty good (for a cough medicine). Lisa, a New York mom, says, “My 5-year-old daughter was having a lot of coughing fits due to post nasal drip, especially at night. This stuff works immediately. This would calm her right down.”

Remember, honey shouldn’t be given to children the age of 1 without first consulting a physician. (Do not use this product for persistent or chronic cough such as occurs with asthma, or if cough is accompanied with excess mucous, unless directed by a licensed health care professional.)

ZoLi Nasal Aspirator This little gadget is new to the market, from a company overwhelmingly committed to “growing a greener future” for our little ones. Clinically tested to be safe for babies from birth (0+), the gentle, steady suction of ZoLi’s battery-operated Breathe nasal aspirator clears up baby’s stuffy nose, more effectively and quickly than a standard suction bulb. Its transparent reservoir provides visibility into the amount of congestion cleared.

Gemina, a mother of a toddler and a preschooler, says it’s faster, more efficient and not as messy as traditional suction, and she liked the selection of included soft, flexible silicone tips in a variety of sizes. The see-through reservoir provided a sense of getting the job done, but cleaning it out was another matter. As parents, we clean a lot of unpleasant messes, don’t we?

Wellness Kit for Kids, Herbs For Kids brand This great new kit is a gem of a find. Whenever I run into runny noses at the park with the kids, I always recommend it. In one handy little box are three homeopathic formulas which help support and protect your baby or child all year long.

Sweet Echinacea for immune support is perfect for the first signs of a virus, or when you’re about to take your child on a flight to see Grandma; The Cherry Bark Blend is for respiratory support, and can clear up a cough in no time, helping everyone to get some rest at night; And Nettles & Eyebright is for allergy season relief—it clears up a runny nose faster than an OTC antihistamine, but without side effects! Each kit also contains free stickers and a free “Parent’s Guide to Healthy Kids”. Get this and stay healthy. 

Nature’s Way Umcka Cold Care Grape Flavor  Suitable for children and adults ages 6 and up, this amazing all-natural product from Germany shortens duration of throat, sinus and bronchial irritations. Clinically-tested, non-drowsy, and 99% alcohol-free, Umcka shortens the duration and reduces the severity of throat, sinus and bronchial irritations, providing effective relief of upper respiratory tract irritations. Originating from the traditional African Zulu medicine for coughs and respiratory ailments, it is made from Pelargonium sidoides, a species of geranium unique to South Africa.

My husband and I use this for our own coughs and colds. Michele, the mother of triplets and a fourth child (all under age 4!) says, “This stuff has been clinically tested and absolutely conclusively in double-blind, placebo-controlled tests has been shown to reduce the duration and severity of bacterial and viral infections. It’s now one of the most used supplements in Germany, with a 700 percent increase in sales. It’s even been shown to work on antibiotic resistant ear infections, bronchitis, and can even prevent pneumonia…It’s all about the Umcka. I wonder if they sell it by the gallon?”

For more helpful hints for managing your child’s coughs and colds, check out Winter Wellness – Coping With The Common Cold

 

Baby and Preschooler Decor – A Safe and Organized Playroom October 29, 2008

When a baby joins the family, it often feels like every room in your home transforms into a playroom. Add a second or third child, and the critical mass of underfoot toys multiplies. Reclaim your house by making one room or small area into the playroom or play area. Even more important than helping you stay organized, you’ll be creating a special environment that’s safe and kid-friendly. Try these tips from www.ConsumerReports.org:

Organize the room. When you’re having a tough day, just getting the toys put away seems like a major accomplishment. Organization is the key to making it easier. As a first step in organizing the playroom, get on your hands and knees and try to see the room from your child’s perspective. This will help you determine how best to store his toys as well as identify the potential dangers in the playroom. Organize the room so your child can easily reach his toys, eliminating the temptation to climb to get something he wants and allowing him to safely explore his space. Lots of handy storage makes it easy to put toys away where no one can trip over them.

Make toys accessible. When storing toys, use baskets, buckets, or other containers that allow your child to easily reach inside to pull out what she needs. Be sure the toys in these containers are age-appropriate for all of your children. A 6-month-old should not share toys that are for a 2-year-old because of the danger to the younger child from small toy parts that could pose a choking hazard.

Make organizing fun. You can turn the job of organizing a playroom into a fun project for you and your child. It’s simple: Buy some sturdy plastic containers with lids that snap closed. Working together, fill the containers with different items, such as books in one, toy cars in another, and toy animals in another. Next, look in magazines for photos of the items in your containers and cut them out. Using glue labeled “nontoxic,” “washable,” or “for school use,” attach the photos onto the corresponding containers. Glue is recommended only for kids over 5, so make sure you’re supervising younger children. For other easy storage alternatives, use baskets or open bins.

Don’t tempt fate by placing your young child’s toys and games on high shelves or ledges in the playroom. It’s more than likely that he will figure out how to climb up to get them, with potentially deadly results. If he is allowed to have the toys, store them within his reach. If he shouldn’t have them, keep them out of sight.

Beware of hinged lids. Toy chests or storage bins with hinged lids can fall on your child’s head or neck, trapping her or causing serious injury. And children have been known to crawl into these chests and suffocate while trapped inside. If you have a toy chest, or any chest, with a freely falling hinged lid, the safest thing you can do is remove the lid entirely. Or, you can add a lid support; heavy lids may require two. A lid support will keep the lid of the toy chest open in any position you choose. You can purchase a chest with a lid support or one that has hinges that support the lid, or you can install a lid support or two yourself. Check them frequently to ensure they are still in good working order and that they do indeed work in any position. Remember to check, tighten, and adjust as necessary.

Don’t use these recalled chests. In 1996, 12 million cedar chests made by Lane and Virginia Maid were recalled after six children became trapped inside and suffocated because the lids automatically latched when closed. The chests were made between 1912 and 1987, and many have been handed down as heirlooms, and they can still be found at yard sales or in secondhand stores. Even since this recall there have been two near fatalities and one fatal accident. The Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC) and Lane are still working to recall these chests. As a remedy, Lane is providing new locks for the old chests that will prevent entrapment, and the company will provide assistance to anyone who needs help installing the new lock. To find out if you have a Lane chest that has been recalled and to request a lock replacement, check the Lane Web site at www.lanefurniture.com and click on “customer care.”

Don’t forget to install carbon monoxide alarms in your child’s bedroom! Learn why here.
Want more fabulous ideas? Check out Cool Decor Ideas For Kids Rooms

 

 
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